Is the They/Them suitable for anal play?

Yes. The flared base makes it fully anal-safe for hands-free wear, and the short, stout shape is designed to fill without going too deep. Use plenty of lube and clean thoroughly afterward.

What does 'super soft' silicone actually feel like in use?

The Ultra-Premium formula has a pronounced give under pressure, closer to the softest end of dual-density territory than to a firm silicone. It responds to muscle contractions, which is exactly what makes the girth feel so satisfying for squeezing against.

Will this fit a standard harness o-ring?

The base is harness compatible and works with most standard o-ring systems. The 1.6-inch diameter shaft fits comfortably through a 1.5 to 2-inch o-ring, which covers the majority of strap-on harnesses. Check your harness specs to confirm the right ring size.

What lube should I use with this dildo?

Water-based lube only. Silicone-based lubricants can degrade the surface of silicone toys over time, dulling the texture and compromising the material. Water-based formulas are fully compatible and safe.

How do I clean it properly?

Tantus Ultra-Premium Silicone is non-porous and fully sterilizable. Boil for three minutes, run it through the dishwasher on the top rack without detergent, or clean with antibacterial soap and warm water. Let it air dry completely before storing.

Is this a good choice for someone new to girthy toys?

It's a genuinely approachable introduction to girth. The 5-inch insertable length keeps depth manageable, the soft silicone distributes pressure gently, and the shape lets you control exactly how much you take. Go slow, use lube generously, and let your body set the pace.

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They/Them Super Soft Silicone Dildo 5 Inch

Name: They/Them Super Soft Silicone Dildo 5 Inch
Brand: Tantus
SKU: 77846
Price: 33.60 USD
Availability: InStock

Short, stout, and built for the kind of fullness you feel everywhere.

$33.60$47.9930% offIn stock

How it feels

Girth
Insertable length
Firmness
Flex and bend
Body-safe material
Realism

What it does

Five inches of pure, focused girth. The They/Them is built short and stout on purpose: all that thrust goes into fullness, not depth, so you feel every squeeze and contraction against the soft silicone without any of the discomfort that comes from going too far. The super-soft formula has a satisfying give that rewards muscle engagement, and the flared base makes it harness-ready for solo or partnered play. Made from Tantus Ultra-Premium Silicone, it cleans up completely, including the dishwasher, and it will outlast every other toy in your collection.

FAQs / Q&A

Is the They/Them suitable for anal play?
Yes. The flared base makes it fully anal-safe for hands-free wear, and the short, stout shape is designed to fill without going too deep. Use plenty of lube and clean thoroughly afterward.
What does 'super soft' silicone actually feel like in use?
The Ultra-Premium formula has a pronounced give under pressure, closer to the softest end of dual-density territory than to a firm silicone. It responds to muscle contractions, which is exactly what makes the girth feel so satisfying for squeezing against.
Will this fit a standard harness o-ring?
The base is harness compatible and works with most standard o-ring systems. The 1.6-inch diameter shaft fits comfortably through a 1.5 to 2-inch o-ring, which covers the majority of strap-on harnesses. Check your harness specs to confirm the right ring size.
What lube should I use with this dildo?
Water-based lube only. Silicone-based lubricants can degrade the surface of silicone toys over time, dulling the texture and compromising the material. Water-based formulas are fully compatible and safe.
How do I clean it properly?
Tantus Ultra-Premium Silicone is non-porous and fully sterilizable. Boil for three minutes, run it through the dishwasher on the top rack without detergent, or clean with antibacterial soap and warm water. Let it air dry completely before storing.
Is this a good choice for someone new to girthy toys?
It's a genuinely approachable introduction to girth. The 5-inch insertable length keeps depth manageable, the soft silicone distributes pressure gently, and the shape lets you control exactly how much you take. Go slow, use lube generously, and let your body set the pace.

Care Instructions

Boil for 3 minutes or run through the dishwasher (top rack, no detergent) to fully sterilize.
Soap and warm water works for everyday cleaning between sessions.
Use water-based lube only to protect the silicone surface.
Store in a clean cotton pouch or separate compartment away from other toys.
Inspect the base before harness use to confirm it seats securely in your o-ring.

In the box

1x They/Them Super Soft Silicone Dildo

Specs

Insertable Length: 5 inches
Total Length: 5.5 inches
Diameter: 1.6 inches
Material: 100% Tantus Ultra-Premium Silicone
Harness Compatible: Yes
Safe for: Vulva and anal play
Cleaning: Boilable, bleachable, dishwasher safe
Hypoallergenic: Yes

Emma's take

Weirdly hard to make a bad choice here. It all lands.

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Ships in plain packaging
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Free US shipping over $99
Ships from Michigan and Arizona. Most orders arrive in two to three days.
30-day returns
Something off? Tell us. We'll make it right.
Always genuine
Sourced direct. No knock-offs, ever.
Body-safe materials
Medical-grade silicone, glass, and steel, named on every product page.
Your statement reads XDIPX
Nothing on the bill names a product, a category, or this store.
Ships in plain packaging
Plain box, plain label. Not a secret, just nobody's business.
Free US shipping over $99
Ships from Michigan and Arizona. Most orders arrive in two to three days.
30-day returns
Something off? Tell us. We'll make it right.
Always genuine
Sourced direct. No knock-offs, ever.
Body-safe materials
Medical-grade silicone, glass, and steel, named on every product page.