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Sliquid Naturals H2O water-based lubricant bottle standing upright in warm golden daylight, the post's recommended pick for pairing lube with sex toys

What Lube Should You Use With Your Sex Toys?

The safest all-around answer is water-based lube. It works with every toy material and every condom. Silicone lasts longer but can damage silicone toys, and oil-based belongs nowhere near latex. Here is how to match lube to what you own.

Emma

A pastel-pink Playground Free Love water-based lubricant bottle standing tall and bold on a bright plum-tinted studio backdrop, its label facing forward.

Comparisons7 min

Silicone vs Water-Based Lube: Which Should You Use?

Water-based lube is the everyday default that plays nicely with every toy and condom. Silicone lasts longer and shines in the shower. Here is how to pick, and the one pairing to avoid.

EmmaJul 19

A bottle of JO H2O Original water-based lubricant standing upright in warm daylight on white paper with soft sage-green leaf sprigs and water droplets nearby, evoking gentle cleaning and safe care for silicone toys.

Care and Storage5 min

How Do You Care for Silicone Toys?

Silicone toys are simple to look after once you know two things: how to clean them and which lube is safe to pair with them. A plain guide to washing, storage, and compatibility.

EmmaJul 18

All Care and Storage Comparisons For the Beginners Guides Podcast Notes Real Talk Wellness BasicsGlossary Search9 posts

A cherry-red We-Vibe Tango X bullet vibrator held in a hand against warm coral bedside linens.

Real Talk7 min

What Do You Do When Your Sex Drives Don't Match?

Wanting sex more or less often than your partner is one of the most common things couples ask about, and it rarely means you are mismatched. Here is what usually drives the gap, and what genuinely helps close it.

EmmaJul 17

A black Womanizer Enhance clitoral stimulator standing on a warm sunlit surface as a hand reaches toward it.

Podcast Notes5 min

How Do You Get Out of Your Head During Sex?

A recent Sexology Podcast episode reframes male performance anxiety as a shift from performing to connecting. Here is what it gets right, where it needs a caveat, and the body-safe picks that fit.

EmmaJul 16

A single curved silicone vibrator with an upward-hooked tip, standing on a bright coral background.

Guides4 min

How Do You Choose a G-Spot Vibrator?

Choosing a G-spot vibrator comes down to the curve, the firmness, and how the motor feels once it arrives. Here is how to read those three, plus honest in-stock picks.

EmmaJul 15

A bottle of JO H2O Original water-based personal lubricant, 4 fl oz, on a plain white background.

Real Talk5 min

What Helps When Sex Feels Dry?

Dryness during sex is common and ordinary, and it is rarely a sign that something is wrong. Here is what tends to cause it, and the calm, practical things that help.

EmmaJul 14

Three graduated plum silicone kegel balls from the Je Joue Ami set resting on a small ceramic dish on a bedside table with a brass lamp, dried lavender, and a folded towel.

Wellness Basics7 min

Do Kegel Exercisers Actually Work?

A weighted kegel trainer will not do the work for you, but it makes pelvic floor training easier to feel and easier to stick with. Here is how they actually work.

EmmaJul 12

A matte black Tantus silicone massager and a white Magic Wand Mini resting on a brass tray on a bedside table, next to a folded linen towel and a small dish.

Wellness Basics6 min

Is Silicone Body-Safe? What to Look For

Silicone is one of the safest materials a sex toy can be made from, but the label does not tell the whole story. Here is what body-safe silicone really means and how to spot it.

EmmaJul 11

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