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Priya holds a bottle of Sliquid Massage Oil Unscented, a natural nut and seed blend in a 4.2oz bottle, turned to its plain copper-banded back at her chest with one hand, her free hand raised in a small shrug, brows lifted in the pause after asking a question about reaching for a partner without it feeling like pressure.
Podcast Notes11 min

How Do You Initiate Sex Without It Feeling Like Pressure?

Initiating sex turns into a test when a no costs something. Notes on Sex With Emily's five-step guide to initiation, and the one step everything else rests on.

EmmaSep 10
A woman in her fifties holds a small teal FemmeFunn Ultra Bullet Massager out at arm's length in both hands, studying it with a wide-eyed, wry almost-smile in a sunlit room, like she is reading instructions in a language she almost knows.
Podcast Notes9 min

How Do You Get More Confident in Bed? Start With the Feeling You Want

Sexual confidence is not a technique problem. Two Somatica Institute sexologists on Shameless Sex 501 make the case that naming the feeling you want during sex, not buying a new toy, is the step that changes it.

EmmaSep 3
A man in his early 30s stands in a sunlit bedroom, eyebrows pinched in quiet self-doubt, holding up the We-Vibe Chorus, an adjustable couples vibrator with app control, at eye level while his other hand opens palm-up as if asking an unspoken question.
Podcast Notes9 min

How Long Should It Take to Finish? What Premature Ejaculation Actually Means

There is no correct duration for sex. What premature ejaculation describes is a persistent pattern you cannot delay, plus the distress it causes. A Sex Ed with DB listener asked for a number anyway. Reviewed below from the notes published with the episode: what separates a fast night from a persistent pattern, why the scorecard was the real problem, and where a product honestly belongs.

EmmaAug 27
An adult in her 30s holds up a Bedroom Commands couples card game in one hand, free hand open, wide-eyed and amused, in warm daylight against a plain paper ground.
Podcast Notes11 min

The Sex Questions People Are Too Embarrassed to Ask, Answered Honestly

A recent Sex With Emily episode collects the questions listeners were too shy to ask on stage and answers them one by one. Reviewed here from the full transcript: what Dr. Emily Morse gets right about opening up, asking for foreplay, the cuddle trap, and a curious first look at kink, plus the honest tools that fit each conversation.

EmmaAug 20
A woman sits in warm window light with a soft, relieved smile, her hands relaxed in her lap. On the nightstand beside her rests an open case holding the four-piece anal dilators borosilicate glass training set, compact and quiet in the corner of the frame, next to a glass of water and a folded towel.
Podcast Notes8 min

Does Anal Have to Hurt? What a Bottoming Educator Gets Right

No, and pain is a signal rather than a rite of passage. Shameless Sex episode 497 brings in bottoming educator Alex Hall for an hour of harm reduction: why dilators beat plugs for a beginner, why silicone lube is the anal default, and why numbing products are the shortcut to skip.

EmmaAug 13
The 100 Questions About Sex conversation card game, its box standing upright with a few cards fanned beside it in warm daylight on a plain paper surface.
Podcast Notes5 min

What Is a "Sexual History," and How Does Knowing Yours Improve Your Sex Life?

A sex therapist's podcast makes the case that self-knowledge comes before any fix. Here is what episode 541 gets right about mapping your own sexual history, where it needs a caveat, and the honest tools that help you have the conversation.

EmmaJul 23
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Podcast Notes5 min

How Do You Get Out of Your Head During Sex?

A recent Sexology Podcast episode reframes male performance anxiety as a shift from performing to connecting. Here is what it gets right, where it needs a caveat, and the body-safe picks that fit.

EmmaJul 16

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